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Trauma feels

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                             Photo/Courtesy  When you have been through a traumatic experience ,your mind experiences negative change. As a person, you carry shame and embarrassment. When people look at you feel as if they can see right through you, right through all your secrets. As a result, you learn to sort of occupy a less space. You learn to avoid ,to disconnect. At a social event for example you find yourself isolating and  staying unseen. And you almost become invisible. But sometimes in the quest to self improve, you try seek validation by connecting. You want to be heard ,seen and understood, so you seek love, friendship because that  love is a source of validation. But the more you try, the more broken you feel. It turns into a quagmire because you thought you'd be fine if you had caring friends and a supportive partner. In the long term you realize no amount of secondary love can heal a...